So, I know this post started off about being kinder to others and helping others, but how can we do so when we carry distrust of others in ourselves?
Sometimes when I see someone asking for help, I start thinking if they really need it or are they trying to make their life easier and mine more difficult?
And so instead of practicing kindness, I end up practicing suspicion.
Perhaps I do need such wisdoms, when to help and when not to, but I also need to begin being kinder to myself. I’ve realised that by not being kind to myself, I sometimes ignore my own inner voices. And when I don’t listen to my own advice I don’t feel in sync with my own emotions.

Perhaps by learning to be kinder to myself I will begin to see the complex emotions rising within me when someone asks me for help. By learning to be calm with myself and listening to the swelling emotions, I will be able to see the lessons I perhaps need to unlearn and the knots I need to untie within myself in order to be kinder.

Perhaps I helped someone and they weren’t nice to me? Am I carrying that lesson with me still? Is the world less sweet and beautiful now?

Maybe it’s time for me to be kind to myself and let that go. And being kinder here also means being patient with myself through the process.

Perhaps we all need to ask, whenever we become aware, how can we be kinder to ourselves?
I hope you do ask yourself and practice kindness with yourself.
You got this!