11 days of consecutive posts!

This habit is 10 days away from the urban myth figure of 21 days for a habit to form!

It takes 66 days on average to change a habit! But that’s an average. For some it can be a full year!

Which category do I fall in? I think I will not take any chances and say that I am firmly in the 1 year category. Perhaps 90 days might work for me? But again, I don’t want to take any risks with my life and my goals. So 1 year of writing it is.

I’ve been passionately reading Models by Mark Manson, and I am also reflecting on other parts of my life.

Models is making me realise that my goals in life were flawed. Relationship goals AND life goals. I was afraid and unwilling to go ahead and look out for myself. I was afraid of taking chances. I think I have been afraid for a long time.

Maybe I was spooked by my past failures. Maybe I was afraid of my past rejections.

And maybe I was just afraid of change.

Sometimes life happens so fast that you don’t have time to take stock. My failures led me to stop and look around. As the world passed me by, one day at a time, I was able to look at what was important to me and what I was grateful for.

I also visited and revisited many of my fears and apprehensions. Have stayed with them and they have overstayed their welcome many times.

But I feel that now I can finally move on. I do so with a heavy heart and with uncertainty about where I am going and what I will do…but I am going somewhere. That is for sure.

UPPING THE RIGOUR

I’ve been doing a few things regularly now, but I feel that it is time to stretch them out a little. I have not been as rigorous as I would’ve liked to be up until now.

But the plan was to always be patient. This is a journey, a process. Change does not happen in one day, or two days. Change takes time.

And if I am not patient, or push too hard on just one day, I might not even want to show up the next!

One of my meditation teachers told me, your effort is in your control, but the results and outcomes are out of your control.

You will get something for your efforts, but not always what you wanted.

And that’s fine. It is a journey, and if you knew what was going to happen, perhaps you are on the wrong path.

Here is to a whole lot more of this and the rest of the stuff that I am doing!